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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We wanted one child and now we have a delightful three year old. I very much do not want a second child, nor does my spouse. But I still can’t make peace with the fact I’m “letting my child down” by not giving him a sibling. Most families have a reason for an only that’s from necessity, like secondary infertility. We just love our family and feel complete. But I have so much worry that having parents who feel complete and have fulfilled their family planning hopes means nothing when our son is dealing with dying parents alone.

If we had a second we’d end up giving him two unhappy parents, so I know we are doing the right thing for us. But I wish I had more certainty I wasn’t setting him up for a less positive outcome. Am I over thinking this? Happy kids come from all sorts of families, right?[/quote]

You need to firmly change your internal thoughts and redirect them when you start thinking you are somehow failing your son by not giving him a sibling.   Think, "We have the perfect family for us, my son is happy and healthy, and the future cannot be controlled."

Stop worrying about what may or may not happen forty or fifty years from now!  You have a delightful three-year-old so DELIGHT in him every day.  No one knows what the future may hold but you do know what you have now.

A wise person will not waste a single minute worrying about aging & dying when there is so much life right in front of you.   [/quote]

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