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[quote=Anonymous]I was introduced to a man through mutual friends - 35/divorced/lives in Florida.  (I'm 32/never married.)  We hit it off and started dating, and since he travels a lot for work, he's come up to DC a few times, and we've gone to NYC together once.  Things are going really well - he's smart and kind and I honestly didn't think guys like him existed.  Okay.  Enough being sappy.

I always figured he was financially comfortable because of how he dressed and his job and the hotel he picked in NYC, but I sort of assumed we were on the same level.  (I'm in consulting and make very low six-figures - I'm comfortable but nothing obscene for this area.)

But this weekend, we had the big "define the relationship" talk about where our future could go (since we are meeting families this holiday season), and he was honest about his financial situation.  He's more than financially comfortable - he has a vacation home in Palm Beach and an apartment in West Village and owns the southern equivalent of INOVA.  He apologized for not being up front about everything, but I guess women in the past had been more into the money than him.  He said he hopes I'll end up moving to Florida and in the next few years once he finds people to run his businesses for him, we can travel full-time.

I just...I feel like this is a dream come true situation since I love him... but part of me now feels suspicious of dating a really rich guy.  I'm a pretty girl, but I am not the kind of pretty girl that dates millionaires.  I almost wish I never knew about the money because then I wouldn't be stressing that I now need to lose 15 lbs and be tanner and more...trophy-like.  I also have no idea what to buy him for Christmas because what do you buy the person who is literally buying themselves a new Tesla for Christmas - "Oh here babe I got you a nice steering wheel cover to keep your hands warm in your gajillion dollar car"

Also he asked me what I wanted for Christmas, and how do I even answer that?!  I'd been saving for a Cartier watch, but I now I feel like it'd be gold-diggery of me to mention I'd been saving up for one.... but if I didn't know he had all that money, I would have had no problem joking that he should buy me the watch (and assume that I wouldn't get it)

I just feel like I need someone to talk to about all this, but I don't trust my friends since they'll all gossip about it lol[/quote]

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