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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You will love a 2nd child as much as the first, so just take that off your list of worries. Did you love your husband less when you had your child? Probably not.

The sibling guarantee is a nice thought, but you are right it is not guaranteed. They could hate each other, be competitors in a way that is not productive, or one child could become a burden on the other later in life. I'd also take that off your list, because for every heartwarming sibling story there is a heartbreaking one.

Finances are a factor that you do not mention, so I assume that you are well off but this is not a small thing to consider with regard to what kind of house you can live in and what schools you have access to, and it also affects how to pay for college or when you retire.

Your relationship is already strong so that is good. More stressors test a marriage, so that just is what it is. Kids can be that, but so can other things. You will have less time in general for you and for your relationship. Do you care about how another child will impact you or your career? Here's a thought -- do you envision spending future Saturday mornings sipping coffee with your DH on the sidelines of DC1's soccer game, or splitting up to go to DC1s game while your DH goes to DC2's game across down? This is one thing I notice every weekend. It's a game changer and an interesting thought experiment.

You have one healthy child and at 38/42 you are likely to have another, but that is not guaranteed -- never is.

I have heard several moms of two say that they love their children and can't imagine life without them, but that their second brought about a very real understanding and appreciation for those who choose to stop at one.

Good luck![/quote]

OP here. We are not rich but we have a god income. We can comfortably afford two children. I didn't add in expenses because iwe can afford it. [/quote]

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