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[quote=Anonymous]My husband and I have been together for 5 years, married for 3. We have a beautiful 15 month old and are on deciding on having a second. I'm 50/50 but he really wants another child. We are older parents - 38 and 42. He makes a strong case for having a second but I still have some reservations. Our son is the best thing that has happened to us but it's hard. He is good sleeper now, but the first couple of months of sleep deprivation is tough. Breastfeeding was tough. Balancing work and a child is tough. I know the baby years don't last that long, but it's tough.

My husband has a sibling and they are super close. He wants our child to have someone he can lean on and grow up with. I know siblings doesn't necessarily mean best friends, but that's his hope. My fear is that I will never be able to love my second child as much as I do my first. I worry about him feeling like he is left out because we have a new child. We luckily got pregnant early with our first but I know that may not be the case this time around, and my age doesn't help. Our marriage has been stronger than ever, but I think it's because we put our marriage first. We have a weekly date night, and believe our having a strong and happy marriage will be a good example to our son and possible other children.

I'm mostly leaning towards yes but there are so many things that make me worried. A part of me doesn't want to get excited about a second child and it doesn't happen. If you were undecided, how did you choose? 
 
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