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[quote=Anonymous]I've posted twice before:

"Angry Wife & Emotionaless Husband"

and

"Angry Wife posting again"

Anyway, thanks to everyone here, things have gotten better.  My husband refused to go to the doctor to check out ADD/ADHD (even though he was willing to go to the doctor to check out memory loss issues and those were ruled out) but he has done a lot of research himself and started self-medicating with espresso/caffeine.  It has helped a lot and our marriage and his relationship with the kids has improved.

But over Thanksgiving, he started saying things that are very out of character for him that do not make sense, are false, and seem bizarre.  He is an intelligent person who is very successful at work but seems to be making no sense.

Here are a few examples:

"All national parks allow you to take your pets everywhere" (when we were talking about visiting a national park for vacation -- we have been to many national parks together and know we couldn't take in our dog)
"All national parks let you camp there" (again, I know he has been to many national parks)
"Only the poor and rich should go to college because they can afford it, but the middle class shouldn't because they can't afford it." (when we were talking about college, and we are middle class and want our kids to go to college)
"You need to make more money in your first year out of college than the cost of the all the years of college or college doesn't make sense" (DH works in the non-profit/government world and definitely does not believe this nor did he do it.)

There are many more examples but they are a little bit harder to explain because I am not sure if they were innocent mistakes -- like starting to go down a 1-way street the wrong way or telling me that he was going back to the hotel (and implying that he was leaving me and the kids behind like he forgot we needed a ride, too) or saying that he is giving up red meat (for environmental reasons) and then ordering soup with "tendon" at a Vietnamese restaurant and saying that he forgot that it was red meat.

I love my husband and thankfully none of these things are making me angry, but I truly feel like I am with someone with dementia.  And, remember, memory loss has been ruled out with a neurologist.  Something is wrong here.

He did experiment with drugs when he was younger, so I was wondering if this is a side effect.  Or is this just the ADD/ADHD again, and the caffeine isn't helping anymore?  Or is this from the stress of visiting family and thanksgiving?[/quote]

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