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[quote=Anonymous]13:20, I wish you the best as well.

Op, My BIL has been sober many years but it was a lot of tries to get there.  Fortunately became sober before kids and has been able to maintain his sobriety since.  He was a high school and college athlete and pretty much an alcoholic by high school.

A factor was definitely the hard drinking/party culture but in my humble opinion, an undiagnosed something.  He’s very type a and ocd.  Between the constellation of traits their kids have and the actual diagnosis my kids have, i’ve seen a lot of how anxiety manifests.

He’s had great success with AA and isn’t religious at all.  He’s made some really close friends through aa as well and having a network of friends who know and understand you as sober helps.  From what I understand a lot of less religious, agnostic, or even atheist approach aa from a more universalist/Transcendentalist approach, the higher power as you see it, but what it really means is you don’t have control over others or events, only your thoughts and actions.  This is also something to CBT therapy.

Your sil may write off aa because it gives her permission not to address the alcoholism.  She may have better response to traditional CBT approaches with someone familiar with addiction.  It also may help her to have a sober peer group.  A lot of women use social outlets like book groups as an excuse to get drunk.  There is a largely ignored issue of mothers day  drinking/abusing alcohol.  It gets headlines when someone drives their minivan the wrong way on the highway.  My sister doesn’t drink because of my BIL.  Even if your sil had a peer group of women who are sober by choice might help.

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