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[quote=Anonymous]I have two boys.  I always say myself raising a girl, and I felt like I had no idea how to raise a boy. My husband told me that it was the same way, it would have been the same. And he has been right. I have a teen and a tween, and he has been 100% right.

Sometimes when we have babies and children, it is such a big and emotional thing, that it brings up things that we had kind of forgotten. Things that hadn't been dealt with but just got tucked away in the back corner of our minds come out in a way that we can't stop.

Your issues with your mom are not things that are doomed to be repeated with your daughters. You have to let them be their own people and your relationships with them will be different from the relationship you had and have with your mom, because you will MAKE it different.

Your husband is a great man and you and he are going to raise two wonderful HUMANS and send them out in to the world, just as I am raising two wonderful HUMANS. The boy/girl thing is not so important. We raised our kids to focus on the person and not on their gender and I am proud that my kids have very close friends who are smart and strong and independent and are both girls and boys.  They look beyond the gender.

Finally, I think you should consider that this sounds a lot like PPD.  Gender disappointment is real, but I think your hormones are making this very hard for you.

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