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[quote=Anonymous]OP, since your reaction is "WTF," is this behavior new for her? Out of the ordinary compared to her usual behavior in similar situations?

If yes, this is unusual for her: She sounds like she might be scared for you (maybe she hears "sinus surgery" and her brain goes, "Surgery on my loved one's head, for a condition about which I really know nothing, and my friends' kids have had infections that didn't require surgery so maybe my daughter really won't have to either"). That could be plain fear born out of both caring for you and at the same time being ill-informed because she doesn't realize that sinus surgery is fairly common.

If this is unusual for her: She might be going through things of which you are unaware and which she has been keeping from you because you've been sick. It's odd, then, that she'd explode with "other moms' kids do what they advise" etc. -- but worry for you plus maybe her keeping some trouble of her own away from you could combine to make her lash out. It's not unusual for people to lash out at the person they love the most, when they are afraid for the person they love the most. And when they are afraid for themselves. I know from experience that people sometimes put up their dukes and seem angry at the person for whom they feel the most love and fear. That's not an excuse but it is an explanation.

I'd ask her kindly to tell you what's wrong and what it is she's dealing with herself.

If this is NOT unusual for her, and she tends to push push push you to "take her advice" in other, less important, circumstances -- this is part of her pattern and shouldn't be a "WTF" moment. If that's the case, then I'd just tell her you're sorry she's got things to deal with, and though she may not believe your doctor, you do, and would appreciate her supporting you through surgery even if she feels it's not what she would do herself. [/quote]

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