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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your ex wants a 50-50 custody, he needs to work it out with his employer. What works the best for us, is a predictable schedule. [/quote]

when my kids were little (like 5 y.o.), I kept full physical custody but made time fr ex to have visitation in our home 50% of the time.  But, ex often switched due to work or personal events.  We (parents) both thought we had a good schedule, but our 5 year old explicitly told us she wanted a regular schedule.  She wanted to know that Daddy comes on Wednesdays, and our saying "Daddy isn't coming Wednesday but will come Thursday instead" didn't work for her.

Kids like predictability.  If dad works weekends, then you are stuck having the kids for the weekends.  If he has any time during the weekday, maybe you can have a night off simply to rest?

If there's no way for him to pitch in on the weekend, then try to load up on some toddler classes or activities where you don't have to be directly supervising or engaging all the time -- story time at the library, music class, etc.  Or hire a mother's helper to come weekend mornings.  Give her a key and ask her to be there early when your kid typically wakes up.  She can make him breakfast, play with him a bit and then the two of them can "make you breakfast"  that way you can sleep in a bit one weekend morning.  Or find a parent friend with kids the same age and agree to swap "sleepovers" 1 or 2 times a month so you can have a night off and a good sleep. [/quote]

Your child probably said what ever makes you happy.  That's pretty horrible that your ex was only allowed visits in your home.  That is an uncle relationship if he has to be supervised by you at all times and you are not siting any abuse or neglect.  [/quote]

You have no idea of our situation.

I offered my exDH 50/50, which he never pursued.  He had a substance abuse problem and was coping with mental illness.  Despite that I welcomed him into my home 3 nights a week and one weekend day, making dinner for him and the kids and supporting his relationship with them as I have done for over 10 years.

You are wrong to assume that full physical custody to one parent is always a lesser relationship than would exist under 50/50.  Although he certainly never physically or sexually abused them and thus would have gotten half custody, I am grateful that he recognized that he could not provide them a healthy environment.

My kids approached me because they know that I have always supported their relationship with their Dad.  My children definitely feel free to tell me anything, even those things that make me unhappy.

Shame on you for shaming another parent’s custody situation.

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