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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It does seem unfortunate that your FIL gets the benefit of having the kids there for Christmas morning and your MIL always misses that.  Not saying it's your fault, but it's unfortunate.  Is there a time when you envision staying home for Christmas instead of traveling?  I think the fact that your husband travels 3-4 days a week, which means he'll be gone half of her visit, makes this a nonstarter.  Suggest that she plan to come for the week next Thanksgiving and let her know you understand that she needs the trip with her friends to de-stress (her anger may come in part from guilt over preferring to go away with her friends that weekend, so "give her permission").

Also, why are you the one corresponding with her when you have to tell her that her proposed visit is inconvenient?  That should have come from her son.  [/quote]

I understand that is in unfortunate that she has always lived with roomates which is why I was trying to be accomodating. It's a little late in the game right now to be asking to come visit and I gave a 10 day window around 22 nov -dec 2 that would be good for us. I mean, our tree and holiday decor is up as early as now so she could have given us more dates outside of that two week window right before our trip. I think had she mentioned this even 2-3 weeks ago we could have found sometime in November for her to come. Thanksgiving is very late this year and there is basically 2 solid weeks before we leave. My husband cannot take several weeks off right now in a row, especially since he is traveling for 10 days in December for the holidays.

She has less going on, so to me it makes sense that she would try to work around our schedule, which is a lot more limited with my husband's work/travel, prior commitments, the kids school/activities ESPECIALLY since we are paying and she is asking to come. It's not a matter of not getting to see the kids. She will see them days later when we are there. I go out of my way to plan things all day for the holidays so it is special for her. I got back to her b/c my DH would put it off and flights are really booking up for this time of year.[/quote]

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