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[quote=Anonymous](We are not in DC area - moved away a couple years ago)
My 10 yr old son is on a developmental travel team.  The team only has 11 players, so we typically get a couple players from the elite team.  My complaint has been that the coach plays the elite players more than his own. I’ve discussed it with him, and he agreed (or just did so to avoid a disagreement). My position is that we pay to have our kids play, not guest players, and that our team won’t improve if others play the games for us. My son typically gets a lot of play time - sometimes he plays the entire game. But my position is about the team as a whole. We need to play with the kids we have.
Yesterday was a tournament that we joined last minute - the hosting club needed another U11 team to fill the bracket. Our team is playing for free. Our coach got 4 players from the elite team... so we had 6 subs. First game my son saw little field time. I was annoyed but figured second game he might get more time.
He didn’t. He played for maybe 10 minutes in the first half and sat on the bench the entire second half... in 35 degrees.  Towards the end of the game I counted players on the field and only counted 8. Figured since it was dark (the second half was quite literally in the dark) I just couldn’t see all the players. We lost 2 to 1. After the game my son came over and was very upset about not playing. After the game I went to the coach and asked if my son had done something wrong (I asked very nicely- maybe my son had shown attitude or something). Coach responded that he didn’t go in when he was told to, and coach didn’t realize they played 8 instead of 9 for the entire second half because he didn’t go in. On the way home my son was adamant coach did not tell him to go in, and that coach was mean and on and on.  But I thought well, maybe he wasn’t paying attention and didn’t hear it.  Got Home the coach had sent a text to the team apologizing for yelling at the kids, and stated that they played 1 down because he told them that whomever ended first half was starting second half and he didn’t realize one of the kids didn’t go in. My son did not play at the end of the first half, so coach blamed him when it wasn’t his fault. And what coach doesn’t realize how many players are on the field versus the bench?
So my husband was irate. I’ve calmed down. He told son he isn’t playing today after being treated like that. Part of me agrees... but we are part of the team. But I also know he might end up all day on the bench again since the elite players are there, so why bother going.
Thoughts on skipping today?[/quote]

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