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I know you'll get the opposite advice here, but I would urge you not to stop inviting them.  [b]It's an easy way to keep them happy and sometimes they do come, and that's important for your kids. [/b] [/quote]
My kids gets upset when they don’t come. I have tried not telling them I even invited, and just let their showing up be a happy surprise, but my kids get upset either way when they aren’t there. So yes, it’s emotional for me. [/quote]

It's unfortunate that your kids get upset, but before the event, I would say something like "Grandma probably won't be able to make it" and if they don't come, follow that up with "Grandma wasn't able to make it."  Yes, it's upsetting, but they'll learn over time and manage their expectations better.  Sounds like they'd be upset regardless.  I used to have an uncle who always said he was going to give me this or that and I remember getting upset when it didn't materialize, but eventually I learned that Uncle R was just teasing when he said those things (I mean, in reality, Uncle R probably did think he was going to get me this or that thing but for whatever reason there was no follow through, and that's what I learned).  I was disappointed, but not permanently damaged.  It's just a sad lesson of life that sometimes people don't show up.  And, they aren't lying.  It sounds like they are waiting to see if they feel up for the event and decide shortly before it happens. [/quote]

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