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[quote=Anonymous]My DH and I have a blended family--we each have 2 kids, and we're both the primary care givers for our respective kids. We half one joint account where we put in $ to cover our joint expenses (mortgage, etc.) but everything else is separate. We had a prenup because my income and assets are higher. It has worked well day-to-day but we are on completely different financial tracks for retirement.

I'm on target for a generously funded retirement, have saved in 529s. Ex-DH and I share financial responsibility for our kids. My DH is not in debt, but he is not on track to fully fund retirement, and has no college savings for his kids (who are 14 and 16). He pays for everything for his kids without much financial contribution from his ex. This was his decision to minimize conflict with his ex; legally, he could be receiving monthly child support and a portion of other expenses.

I have tried viewing his arrangements with his ex as their business. DH did make some financial changes when I asked--such as now maxing out annual 401K contributions (which he had never done). But I am starting to feel resentment and fear about our trajectory--that we'll end up retirement aged and staying together and having any semblance of the life I want will mean subsidizing him. If he'd done his best, I wouldn't think twice. I can't understand, though, why he doesn't set better financial boundaries with his ex and pursue child support.

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