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[quote=Anonymous]They plan to get married in less than a year.  She is 22, just graduated college, never worked but just landed a decent full time job and got her own apt. He is mid 20s, lives in a relative's house rent free, not yet graduated. He has inconsistent odd part time jobs and gets hand me downs from relatives (old beater cars and such).  He also has severe ADHD which he doesn't treat (he told me so, but it is also obvious).

He is nice enough, but I think he will be a not be a good long term mate for several reasons.   But it is her first serious relationship and the "love of her life."

Neither have a clue what is it be an independent adult with responsibilities  yet.  She jokes about him being directionless and waives it off saying he can just be a SAHD.  Which is fine and great, but she has an entry level position.  She thinks things such as he hadn't seen a dentist in 6 years is funny and cute (and not for lack of insurance, just a meh, I didn't feel like it) because she is "taking care of him." He also tends to make odd large impulsive purchases- which she thinks is cute and quirky.

I would like to tell her to consider moving the wedding back some.  Wait for him to graduate, figure out what he is going to do for work, live together a while, see how he manages money, basically, be sure he can be an adult that is capable of at least supporting himself and making sound decisions before she marries him and gets pregnant.

The reason I would bring up anything at all is because neither of them have good parental guidance.  In fact, I think his family is somewhat relived he will be someone else's problem soon. Say something or MYOB[/quote]

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