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[quote=Anonymous]DH has fairly severe GAD.  He refuses to go on meds because he tried them once and he says they didn't do anything and made him feel foggy.  The way he copes is basically to dump it all on me -- whenever he gets an anxiety attack (it's usually work related) he wants me to come and reassure him or talk him through it or go over whatever it was over and over (I think he has some obsessive compulsive tendencies too).  He rants and raves for a good while, then it seems to blow over.  This happens like once or twice a week at the worst times, maybe once every couple weeks when it's not so bad.  I am not a fan of this "coping mechanism".  It completely stresses me out, the kids seem this rather unhealthy behavior, and when he's anxious about work, he completely drops whatever attention he may have been paying to his parenting and house responsibilities, so I have to do it in addition to soothing him.

I don't want to keep doing this.  He says talking to me "is the only thing that helps" but I really resent it.  I think it's unfair to me to keep getting dumped on, I feel like his live-in therapist, not his wife.  Furthermore, it makes me not like him at all -- whenever I see his number come up on my phone, I think "oh what now..." not, oh I'm happy to talk to my husband...I walk around on eggshells waiting for the next "episode".  Whenever I bring this up, he accuses me of being unsupportive.  Am I being unreasonable?  [/quote]

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