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[quote=Anonymous]I gave birth to my twins 7 weeks ago and it’s been a whirlwind.  We were very blessed with an amazing delivery and only 3 days spent in the hospital.  No NICU!

Both babies are fussy eaters and generally high needs and it’s been totally exhausting and we never sleep and obviously my entire life is now dedicated to keeping these two screaming mandrakes alive and relatively happy.

DH is sensitive and has been a great help.  He physically is here with me.  Helping with feeds, getting up a few times a night, changing diapers etc, I’m lucky.
However emotionally/mentally he is elsewhere and has been ultra emotional and needy and I feel awful but I’m just too tired trying to heal and survive to be there like I could before our babies.  He got really upset this weekend because we had a date night planned.  One of our twins got sick (vomiting) and I freaked and canceled and then received the silent treatment.  Baby was fine but I finally got him to open up and he said I don’t love him as much anymore, that I love the babies more, that I’m not emotionally supporting him enough anymore (which is true) because he’s struggling with the babies and needs help.  He mentioned he resents the babies and that they stole me from him. As I said, he’s very sensitive but I found these comments out of character and wonder if he’s suffering from PPD?  I know it happens.

How can I support him while barely being able to support myself?  Any resources?  He goes to therapy but I’m not sure if he’s mentioned this to his therapist.  Has anyone had a spouse suffer PPD?[/quote]

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