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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know a mom who is always saying her child is bullied. Now the child has no friends but my kid who goes to another school. I know parents from my friend’s school and they have said that this mom complains a lot and the child complains a lot so many of the parents do not encourage a friendship because this child will get mad and say she is bullied and who needs that. Bullying is a strong word and too many parents use it. At nine years old the most likely thing is kids who lack social skilled -the child who says they are bullied and the bully who doesn’t have the skills to avoid sensitive child. [/quote]

This is how bullying is excused and continues with misguided views like yours. I hope you aren’t a teacher.[/quote]

Np here but this definitely does happen (in addition to actual bullying, of course) and it’s not good for any of the kids involved. Denying that this dynamic sometimes exists contributes to the problem. [/quote]

Yes, as someone who endured some pretty bad bullying and witnessed some truly horrific things done to other kids, I'm frustrated when kids try to use accusations of bullying to get their way.  Bullying is a huge problem, made worse by kids who think (or are taught to think by parents in denial about their kid's issues) that being told "no" by adults or other kids is bullying.  Just as kids lie about being bullies, kids lie about being bullied.  Basically, kids lie.  All the time.  It's what they do.  This is not something to be angry about, but it's important for people in positions of supervising kids to realize, and it's amazingly rare for teachers or principals to realize how often kids look them directly in the eye and lie to them.[/quote]

Agree.  Both things happen.  There is currently an instance of this in HS that boils down to friend drama.  The "bullied" was clearly social climbing, playing two groups of friend against a third, bragging about how popular she was.  Eventually one friend got fed up and told her (on text) she didn't want to spend any more time with her.  Now, the bullied is upset, mom is calling mom's of other girls explaining how DD is being bullied trying to get other girls to come to her aid.  It's not bullying if people don't like you.  Even being dropped from a friend group or excluded from things is not being bullied. But being consistently targeted for ridicule is bullying, and that seems like what the OP has described here. [/quote]

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