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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You clearly want to see your mother as the bad guy here, OP.  Most of the posters agree that she just doesn’t want you to suffer as she has but you have decided that you only want to see her comments as a criticism.

I hope that works out for you.  [/quote]

It's like a person caked it mud telling someone who has a smudge on their cheek that they need to take a bath.

Show me where I'm wrong.[/quote]

1. Because not every interaction is a competition.

2. Because a good chunk of any parent/child conversation is about much more than the words you are hearing — I learned this from raising a teen and dealing with my own mom.

3. Because most of the time our moms are deep down meaning we’ll even if what they are meaning isn’t apparent.

4. It is painfully obvious that this mom is really saying “honey, this caused me so much pain through my life and it scares me that it might be the same for you. I don’t know what to say or do so I am offering this”.

No one is saying this mom is graceful or appropriate. And my feelings might be hurt, too.  I am saying the mud analysis is off point, though.

Also, OP, if you are at the upper level of the normal index, you probably should pay more attention to your diet and make sure it is healthy and balanced. I sense a bit of defensiveness about your weight more generally, since you defended yourself to us.
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