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[quote=Anonymous]I dated a guy for several months, he was mostly sweet and romantic but I felt he wasn't very open to me, like he wouldn't invited me to his place, the excuse was he used to have exes harassed him after breakup. He caved after we had serious discussion. He also has this flirtatious personality, so I vetted him for about 2 months before seriously dating him.

One day he stepped away taking a phone call for about half an hour. When he returned, he told me that a lady friend will move into his apartment because her visa expired and is in need a place to stay. I knew he dated or slept with many before me, but since we established relationship and he honestly told me this, I trusted he wouldn't do something shady. So I just asked him if she was one of his ex and what does she do here. He said no, she is a good friend, and she is a nanny. I asked is there anything I should know between them? He said no. I didn't say more.

Then in about a month, I decided to break up with him because of personality difference and he seemed take the relationship too casually. I'm a very busy career woman and I'm passionate about my job, but he doesn't like his job and just does enough to get paid, and the same attitude was carried into our relationship, I didn't feel in love and sometimes felt disrespected. The breakup was amicable, though he avoided to do it in person, and we agreed to remain friends.

Fast forward 2 months later, today I received his wedding gift registry link, he is getting married NEXT MOMTH!!! I'm not sure if he forgot to filter his contact list or he or the woman intended to include me in the list. He didn't contact me in the past two months. I have been taking the necessary time to recover and catching some important project deadlines, so I didn't get the chance to contact him either, not that I intended to cut off ties. But this email made me felt really really sh*tty!!!

It's not jealous or something, I don't think about him romantically anymore. But I suspected I was played like a fool. In retrospect, there was something fishy ever since she moved in his apartment, but I didn't think that much and now they could all be pieced together. I have never met this woman, he has so many friends, I didn't had the chance to meet all of them and we mostly dated near or at my place, the only time he invited her to a group outing including me, she didn't show up. And I trusted him, the last date we were together, we cuddled after sex, he was joking saying we should make a baby soon. He told me one of his best friends is visiting in October. He lives in a small studio in downtown DC, only one guest bed in the dinning area, so I asked him how do you have 3 people sleep in the apartment? He said well one of us has to sleep on the floor...I asked so is she going to stay indefinitely? He said he doesn't know. Now it all resonates BS.

I've been loving and respectful in all my past relationships, short or long, I've never felt bitter especially after the romance is gone. And I'v never cursed people in my 30 years of life, it felt so sh*tty now that I wanted to call him to say F U.[/quote]

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