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[quote=Anonymous]I've got teeangers, including 2 (and a DH) with ADHD.  The emotional dysregulation and reactivity you and your DD are experiencing are probably rooted in the same issues and, in her case, are exacerbated by teenage hormones.  None of these are excuses, they are explanations.  As the adult, you need to be more aware and in control of your emotions.  It appears you demonstrate some of the same behaviors you find, rightly, unacceptable in her.

How long have you been in counseling?  Do you think it's helping? One of the foundational principles is that you never want a kid to feel they have nothing left to lose.  It appears you have punished your DD to that point - she's got no cell phone, no ability to keep money she's earned, etc.  Are you doing anything to incentive her for the behaviors you want?

Did you ever take a positive discipline class?  I find my teenagers very similar to toddlers in terms of their emotionality and irrationality.  I use many of the same techniques now that I did when they were toddlers.

Finally, I suggest you get "Yes, Your Teen IS Crazy".  There's a lot of good information in it (but I had to get through the fluff first).  However, it all starts with you being in control of yourself.  Stop taking things personally and stop trying to make/control your teen.  You can't.  Hugs.

https://www.amazon.com/Yes-Your-Teen-Crazy-Without/dp/0936197447[/quote]

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