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[quote=Anonymous]DCUM, I am at crossroads. 10 years ago my then 3-year old got an autism diagnosis. We went through all the motions from full neuropsych to securing placement in ChildFind preschools. It was quite a journey, I had to quit my job at the time and for 2 years I was on top of all of his appointments. He is now 13 and thriving.

When we first revealed his diagnosis to my mother and my brother's family, they were very aghast, then they tried to put all the blame on DH and I, that we were bad parents and what's worse, it was DH's "bad genes" that DS inherited. Yes, very "supportive" family. What's worse, at some point, my brother and SIL said that they were uncomfortable whenever they saw my DS and did not want him to play with his cousins because he was just too different. My mother thought it would be best if DS was isolated because of his differences. She even suggested institutionalizing him. That's when I saw red. I cut them off completely. No communication whatsoever. No holidays together, no postcards, no e-mails nothing. I still communicate with  my aunts but they always made sure that whenever we visited them, my mother and brother's family were not around.

Fast forward 10 years. My aunt reaches out to me and says my mother and brother want to make amends. That they realized the "error of their ways". That she is not getting any older and wants to reconnect with her grandson.

I do not trust that family. At all.When things were hard, they never once reached out. Now that they heard my DS is doing so good, they want to reconnect. All of a sudden he's now worthy of their attention. In my book, it doesn't work that way.

How can I keep them away? Should I get a restraining order? FWIW, DH's family has been most supportive and his siblings always made an effort to include DS. He has a nice relationship with his cousins on that side of the family.

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