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[quote=Anonymous]DH works in education so the pay isn’t amazing but the benefits are good. He recently switched his role and hates it. I’d get texts during the day from him saying he wanted to quit and stay home. He’s almost finished certifications to take him to the next level in his career. But now he says he doesn’t want to do that work anymore. He started applying for other jobs but the pool is limited given the nature of his work. He interviewed somewhere recently and got an offer that pays almost $20k less than his current job. He swears up and down it’s worth it because it’ll be less stressful for him. Financially, I’m not sure how’d we make ends meet. We’d be swapping his happiness at work for money issues. There’s not that much we can cut. He’s basically telling me there is no path for him to make a significant pay increase and that means he’s putting our family’s financial stability on me. He's being incredibly selfish and we have young kids at home that we need to think about. When I reflect on his choices, I can see there is a pattern with him quitting. He’s well respected and a hard worker but he gets overwhelmed easily, bottles it up and then wants to change roles. I just don’t see the value in taking such a paycut with the hope that he’ll be less stressed. I think he’ll always be stressed no matter what he does, so why not get paid for your time. And his current job is just different than the last but one he’s totally capable of doing.

I can see if he was totally stepping out of the workforce, but he isn’t. He’s just getting paid less. It’s not a better commute, not less hours. It’s the glimmer of hope that he might not be stressed but I say that’s just how he’s wired.

Am I a horrible person to tell him to suck it up? I don’t think I have the ability to do sustain our household (groceries, cleaning, appointments, house repairs etc...) plus lead our financial situation.

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