Reply to Destination Event Unpleasantness

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "Destination Event Unpleasantness "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]My brothers family is having a destination event, Bar Mitzvah, next around in Israel. There are about a dozen reasons I really don’t want to attend - ranging from I hate to fly, it’s thousands of dollars, it’s a week of my vacation time, I’m introverted and anxious and the event is planned from morning to night with tours and my mother wants to share a hotel room. Considering we all actually live in the same city, I was pretty shocked at how negatively   it was received when I said I would likely not attend. This conversation, about not attending, was had at lunch with my mother and sister-in-law. After strenuously attempting to convince that I really did want to go, my sister-in-law finally told me that my relationship with my brother, no matter what he said, would be damaged forever if I did not attend. My mother was almost in tears, as, I’m the only relative on my brothers side of the family she thought would come, while my sister in law will likely have a dozen or more family members attending.

These two things are the only reason why I’m going. It was a really unpleasant conversation, but, I decided once I made the call to attend, I would not complain about it to anyone other than my husband.

However, my mother and sister in law keep bringing up how amazing the trip is going to be, and how much they are looking forward to it. It’s bizarre. They know how I feel, I’m only attending due to emotional blackmail, and yet they keep wanting me to get excited about the event. These aren’t group conversations I happen to be a part of, they are one on one conversations.  I’m happy to put on a good face and be pleasant at the event itself. I’m fine discussing logisitics and how excited I am for the nephew. But I feel like I keep getting put on the spot to express how much I’m personally looking forward to this. Aside from just changing the subject, I’m really wondering how to handle.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics