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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes but the first delivery age matters. It causes the most anatomic damage typically with subsequent pregnancies having less impact. Also the risk of complications like preeclampsia and genetic abnormalities other conditions goes up the older we are. I’m AMA and was nearly AMA with my first, it’s just worth knowing going in that your birth might not be the blissful experience they teach you about in birth class. Literally no one I know who had their first in their mid thirties had an “easy” birth. [/quote]

I must be some sort of freak of nature. Birth was way easier than pregnancy for me, and I was 36. 6 hours start to finish, 2nd degree tear, delivered vaginally with no epidural or augmentation. Blissful? No. Easy? Yeah, easier than a lot of people I know, including those much younger than me.[/quote]

I only know of 3 women in my circle of good friends who had that in their first birth. The rest of us had:

IUGR
Preeclampsia
Forceps
C section for breech
Emergency c section for failure to progress/fetal distress
Emergency section for prolonged second stage
Vacuum
Emergency c section for CPD/macrosomia
3rd degree tear
Preterm delivery and NICU admission

I am of the camp that we need to start being more honest with women about what to expect. But right now the way we treat pregnant women is like children who can’t handle the truth. I’d much rather someone have told me ahead of time the truth. I think it’s common especially for women doing IVF to want a natural birth experience after the invasiveness and medicalization of IVF and I get that feeling but it’s not fair to lie. The OP has a number of considerations that put her at higher risk and she deserves to know that. Full stop. She should not fee bad about that, it’s just the reality and any OB will tell her that. [/quote]

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