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[quote=Anonymous]My parents and DH parents are both local. We try our best to balance our visits for fairness. Once a month, we are sure to have a whole day for each family. It’s usually an after lunch whole day that includes dinner and dessert. If siblings/nieces nephews/cousins/aunts/uncles attend, even better. But we struggle with the in between and doom fomo from our retired parents. And our parents are so different. DH parents are chill and relaxed. They’ll bring dinner and offer to shuttle to ballet or soccer. They’ll give baths or help clean dinner. My parents on the other hand come over and expect to be treated like maternal/paternal royalty, you’re alive because of them after all, and don’t you forget it!

So naturally, I’m less inclined to invite them over. It’s never an easy thing and it has to be planned around. It involves more shopping, having my dad’s crappy coffee on hand, my mom’s Diet Pepsi. A more grand dinner, dessert. If my IL come over, they grab something on the way over, fetch the kids along the way, and wouldn’t dare use anything other than paper plates! The kids are particularly ornery that day? We will help get them settled in pajamas and leave, get out of your hair. My parents? Get those kids under control so your dad can enjoy his coffee and Jeopardy.

So how do you balance this without the jealousy that goes along with it? [/quote]

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