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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I love you more than anything. And I’m not going to live like this. It’s unhealthy. Either you get an appointment to a psychiatrist today to deal with this anxiety or I’m gone. Here are the names of 3 doctors. Pick one.”[/quote]

Don’t threaten someone with relationships anxiety with leaving [/quote]

Well, don't start there, obviously. But if they dig in their heels and absolutely refuse to get help, and it's tanking the OP's mental health, then something has to change. Sometimes people need to hear that there is a limit.

My ex-husband had anxiety and depression and threatened suicide. He'd leave and be gone all night, and he was extraordinarily verbally abusive. I was feeling myself start to get suicidal, and I so I restarted therapy (but he refused to go and refused to hear anything about how to potentially make it better).  I told him flat out that I could not survive like this, but when I finally left, he was flat out astonished. He also got into therapy again shortly after that and is fully functional now, years later -- holding a job, enjoying life -- but he burned out any potential to stay with me.

I think if I had been more clear sooner, maybe the change could have happened while we were still together. [/quote]

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