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[quote=Anonymous]My DH gives his ex-wife money for DSS's extracurricular activities - fees for baseball, piano lessons, soccer, flag football, the list goes on and on.  This is outside of child support.  He has been doing it since DSS was school-age (he is 8).  He does this because DSS is an only child and he fully supports DSS being involved in so many activities, and he is concerned if he didn't pay the activity fees his ex would not enroll him because she would say it is too expensive and she doesn't have the money. I don't mind that we are giving her this extra money because I know it is going directly to DSS, but DH and I are increasingly concerned about the expectation this is setting.  We are considering suggesting instead that we ask the court to re-evaluate our child support payments, suggesting that perhaps we are not paying enough as it is our understanding activity fees should be able to be covered in standard payments.

I should add the reason we are geting concerned about expectations is that she is now asking us to pay for a few weeks of summer camp, during weeks of the summer when she has him.  We are already paying for camp during the weeks he is with us this summer (we both work).  She works at a school so has summers off, and we don't think we should have to pay for him to go to camp when he is with her. She basically registered him and forwarded to DH, saying 'please bring a check for X amount on Friday'.  Anyway - wondering how common this situation is?  Thanks. [/quote]

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