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[quote=Anonymous]We are very close to DH’s best friend from college and his wife, and they are truly like family. They used to live right near us but moved further out a year or so ago. However, most of their life still revolves around where we live so they are always in the neighborhood with their kids. They have to dropping by all the time - weekday and weekend - and have started using our apartment as their “second home” when needed. For example, they will drop by if they need to feed or change the baby and don’t want to do it when they are out, if they have down time from one activity to the next and don’t want to go home to then drive back, etc.

At first it was kind of nice to continue seeing them so often since they moved and were no longer a couple blocks away, but it has gotten rather annoying. They often drop by when we are busy doing something else, have friends over for our kids, are about to leave to go somewhere, etc. We have asked them several times to call first to make sure we are free but they rarely do. Occasionally they will text and say “stopping by in 5” and we will write back that it’s not a good time but they still come over anyway. DH brought it up once more seriously and his friend took it really personally and said we are like family so our door should always be open, and then nothing changed (even though DH reiterated that it’s just not always a good time).

I don’t think the friends are using us for the convenience, although it certainly helps them. Bottom line is that we love these friends and absolutely don’t want to end the friendship but there seems to be no way to get them to back off a little without offending them. FWIW, they would have no issue if we were doing this to them... they are very kind “the more the merrier” type people, whereas we just need more space. Also, their kids are younger than ours and tend to destroy our house, but that’s sort of another story. Any ideas?[/quote]

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