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[quote=Anonymous]My husband and I are separated, he initiated after 19 years.  The last 6 have been awful, we’ve both slowed our resentment to build over the past mistakes  to the point that it broke us.

I’m not against our separation. I commend him for having the balls to leave.  I feel it was the jolt I needed to see things, to really think about my contribution to the disaster our marriage became, and what I really want.

The separation stemmed from a fight.  The first few days I was angry, I have since ran a gauntlet of emotions, started therapy, and I’m learning about myself and what I want.

What I want is my husband back, my family back.  We both admit to still loving each other.  It just got too hard.

My question is, particularly from the perspective of the partner who left.  How do I start the conversation?  A phone call, a letter, in person?  
He left and I want to give him space to get what he needs/wants out of this but I also don’t want him to think I’m moving on.  His personality is one that needs validation of love and I know me not trying to show him my love, how I feel, won’t work. [/quote]

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