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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So there are frequently threads like the current one running about giving birth alone and how do people manage when there are no relatives nearby.  The standard DCUM answer is you have to build your village.  Yet right now there are also threads running about neighbors who don't want to have ANY interaction or people who refuse to chitchat at the bus stop. So how exactly are you supposed to build your network if neighbors don't want to engage and neither do parents of kids at your school or anyone else you frequently find yourself in proximity with?  Asking for a friend...[/quote]

Take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself why nobody wants to interact with you? We are friendly with a few neighbors but in a thousand years i would never want or ask them to attend my birth. what purpose would they have there? tell me to push, push? take photos? seriously?

If you feel someone other than you needs to advocate for you - hire a doula. [/quote]

I don't think OP (and the OP of the other thread that this spun off of) is wanting some random friend/neighbor [b]at the birth[/b].  If I remember correctly, the original thread was about OP needing to labor/deliver alone, because her DH would need to stay home with their 2 older children.

Our DD is nearly 4.  We moved to a community 2 years ago that seemed to be full of families with preschool/elementary age children, only to discover that most of the families are very insular.  There's little to no actual socializing amongst neighbors, even with those who have children the same age.  Everyone is involved in their own activities/jobs/lives/whatever.  The two families we were close to in the neighborhood have both recently relocated out of the area.  I have exactly one local friend I could call on and trust enough to watch my child in an emergency, and we have a babysitter we've used on occasion who might be available in a pinch.  I get where the OP is coming from with this.  I think it would be easier to build a village if I was a SAHM, but I'm not, so there's that complication, too.
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