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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So there are frequently threads like the current one running about giving birth alone and how do people manage when there are no relatives nearby.[b]  The standard DCUM answer is you have to build your village.  Yet right now there are also threads running about neighbors who don't want to have ANY interaction or people who refuse to chitchat at the bus stop. So how exactly are you supposed to build your network if neighbors don't want to engage and neither do parents of kids at your school or anyone else you frequently find yourself in proximity with?  [/b]Asking for a friend...[/quote]

The thing is, not everyone is going to be your village. It takes work to build a village, and a lot of putting yourself out there. Often, you have to seek out places or activities where other people are also looking for villages eg. Meetup groups, religious groups, volunteer organizations, etc. And, like it or not, yu have to be the one to build it and ask for the help you need. Everyone is, in general, looking after their own life and individual challenges. I’ve seen people who are building good networks get bent out of shape about reciprocity or dinner invites... while the other family is doing things in other ways like helping with school or club pickups, etc. You really need to get into the mind set of “other people do things differently” when you are developing adult friendships. [/quote]

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