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[quote=Anonymous]My 3rd grader tends to be somewhat of a follower, and also will often do nice things for others without it being reciprocated.  She normally doesn't mention much about her school day but generally seems like a happy kid.  However, today was acting kind of hyper after school.  Later this evening, she basically broke down tonight and confessed that kids she considered good friends have been saying mean things and excluding her on occasion, so much so that she spent recess by herself today with no one to play with.  She will often do things like the following: one girl (Larla) asked her to run back to class and grab Larla's water bottle that she'd forgotten--when my daughter did this, Larla snatched it out of her hand and walked away.  She always seems to be people's gofer, and it' seems to not be reciprocated.  Through tears she said she tries to follow the golden rule and be nice to others, but that sometimes they're still mean to her.

She always seems to pair up with a bossier girl and sort of follows along with them--this is a pattern that's existed really since daycare--but this is the first year she's really mentioned some social exclusion.  I told her that if someone is being mean to her, maybe she shouldn't try to keep playing with them, because then they may think they can be mean to her without repercussions.  I said she shouldn't call names, but should stand up for herself.  I also encouraged her to play with new kids.  Anyone else BTDT with a sweet kid who has this type of personality?  [/quote]

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