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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]After over a year of trying for a first, I just got a positive. I still don't really believe it, and I feel like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. Can anyone relate to that feeling? Although I've never been pregnant before, it was relatively hard for me to get here (certainly emotionally), and I'm afraid it will be taken away. I feel like I don't really get to be happy yet, since it's so early and therefore so fragile. Has anyone else been here?[/quote]

I've definitely been there, PP.  It did not take us long to conceive our first, but I almost expected to lose it for the first trimester because of some friends' experiences.  I was very numb to the pregnancy for the first 13 weeks or so.  Hearing the heartbeat and seeing the first ultrasound or two did nothing for me--it's like I refused to allow myself any excitement.  I think the techs probably thought I was a sociopath.  But I felt a lot more optimistic and then excited once I got through the first trimester and now that feels like a blip. Anyways, I hear you and I am sure plenty of women have felt the same way. Congratulations![/quote]

Thanks for sharing. It's helpful to know that other people have felt this way. Part of what complicates this is that we had to wait a while to start trying, due to a variety of circumstances, and then it took a while once we were trying. During this time it was hard for me to listen to friends talk about their pregnancies. Now that I'm finally there, I also worry about the people who will feel upset by my news, such as my work friend who will never be able to have kids. I'm glad to have been there; it taught me a lot. Never assume that everyone wants to hear about your pregnancy, pregnancy envy is so raw and painful. Now that I'm pregnant, I also feel somewhat guilty (irrational as that may be). [/quote]

It sounds like you are a very empathetic person and mindful of others' feelings, and that will be appreciated. Best of luck to you![/quote]

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