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[quote=Anonymous]I think this is a hard one as for me it’s an “it depends.” Generally I do think it’s good to let kids learn to work it out themselves, with support and scaffolding as needed. They need to learn how to manage these interactions but sometimes they need our help to learn that too. If it’s with kids we know well and I know the other parents feel comfortable letting them work it out then I step back more. If I know it’s a parent that doesn’t feel comfortable, or it’s someone we don’t know at the park, or my child is being excessively dominant or in a kids space than I step in. If you feel you’re stepping in a lot, then maybe try to catch yourself if it’s not a loss of limb/eye situation and try to wait and observe just a little more before deciding if they need a little help. I do think sometimes kids need our help with ideas, you can try narrating the situation to help as opposed to telling the “right” way. But also if we give them the space before jumping in sometimes they surprise us.

With the other parents it’s likely mostly parenting style differences. Janet Lansbury really encourages letting kids work it out, and I try to do it when I can but also find with other kids and different parenting styles that’s not always realistic and I don’t want to make other kids or parents uncomfortable. Here is an article from Janet Lansbury on the issue so you can see where other parents might be coming from

https://www.janetlansbury.com/2013/09/helping-toddlers-resolve-conflicts-rules-of-engagement/[/quote]

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