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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Kids are 6-7 and in 1st grade.  Great friends with one family.  They have a son, who had a rough year last year in K.  Bad teacher, they moved him to my kid's class with a good teacher.  The bad teacher just disappeared with the school giving various excuses for her sudden departure mid-year and split all the kids up.  They decided to try a private school this year, it didn't work out, so he's back in my daughters 1st grade class at her table.  I was excited, because these are good friends of ours.  [b]But whatever has happened, DD says he's the worst thing that has happened this year so far and she greatly dislikes him.  He's not a bully, but she says he's not nice to other kids.  [/b]

I know his parents are doing everything they can to support him, they are 100% involved.  I felt myself starting to make excuses for him, telling DD he had a rough year last year, and I know his parents really love him and are working on it.

Then I realized that I have to be on my kid's team.  She doesn't like this kid, this kid is being mean to other kids.  She needs the message that I'm on her side.  If she doesn't want to be around this kid, then she doesn't have to be around him.  Regardless whether or not I'm friends with his parents or not.

Other similar stories/perspectives appreciated.[/quote]

I'd be cautious about this report. The other kid is new to the class and your kid "greatly dislikes him" and reports "he's not nice." That might be true, and that might be a bunch of kids picking on the new kid, with your daughter following along. [/quote]

That's interesting because I read the bolded and had the opposite thought -- that this kid might be picking on OP's kid personally but she knows Mom likes his mom and she's giving this report as a way to test the waters and see if Mom will defend him/if she'd even be receptive to hearing something other than praise of her friend's kid.  OP make sure your kid knows that you don't expect her to befriend a mean kid because you like his mom.[/quote]

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