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[quote=Anonymous]I'm 32 and unmarried. I haven't even been in a long term relationship. I've always had trouble getting beyond a month of dating, and that generous, I usually don't get more ham two dates.

When you think of a 32 year old involuntary celibate (almost. I tend to not want to sleep with someone right away on the first date, but men don't usually stick around long enough for me to consider sex), you might think of some frumpy cat lady, maybe overweight. 
I'm a former model. I'm thin and with a nice face. People notice me, but they don't like me, at least not enough.

My friends, many of whom are overweight or average, less glamorous, don't wear heels, don't wear makeup...they are all married or living with partners.

I don't think I'm an unbearable person either. I try to be polite, do nice things for people, take interest in what they are saying. I'm not a complainer about random things and I always offer to pay my share, tip the bartender, etc. But I'm eccentric. I have a lot of weird interests and quirks. I'm into some niche things that aren't everyone's cup of tea and find it hard to shut up about them. I also, admittedly,when I feel like I've fallen in love with someone, get kind of head over heels and obsessive. I may have aspergers or some high functioning autism. I'm not sure, but I've been spending a lot of money on therapy and trying to make myself a better person.

But my point really isn't about possibly being on the spectrum, it's more in response to all these threads about how men go for looks and body type. That's about first dates, and that's pretty much it. I know I'll get accused of bragging about being attractive, but DCUM seems to have a very limited acceptable range of being happy with your appearance vs being overly self deprecating. (You're either fat shamed, or complaining about needing to lose weight even if you don't)

It really DOESN'T come down to looks and weight. I'm 115 lbs and my more average or overweight friends are MUCH happier and more successful with men. Being thin does NOT mean a woman has it all together! I would put exercise and diet above all else and lose friends and potential dates over it. It's not worth it! Men like women who let themselves live a little and have more warm, approachable, and normal personalities.[/quote]

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