Reply to Forcing Adopted Asian Child to have Bat Mitzvah when Child Does not Want It

Forum Index » Parenting -- Special Concerns

Reply to "Forcing Adopted Asian Child to have Bat Mitzvah when Child Does not Want It"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why doesn’t she want it?  Does she not want to be Jewish?
I’m not Jewish - is a bat mitzvah something that most Jewish parents would force their bio kids to do?  Parents often make their kids go to church, despite objections, whether adopted or bio.  Is this a similar thing?

You probably won’t be able to change their minds, but as an aunt you can encourage a close relationship with your niece and provide a listening ear for her when she needs it.[/quote]

Many a Jewish kid has been forced to have a Bat Mitzvah where they liked the gifts and maybe even the party, but didn't like all the studying and work. Among each successive generation of Jewish parents, especially reform, fewer people force kids who don't want it to do it because it is a huge investment of their time studying a language that is not helpful and a huge investment of money.

The thing with adopting a child is, it is one thing to encourage religion where they go to say Sunday school and see friends. It is another thing to force a cultural ritual that requires intensive preparation and isn't going to help you one day lead an independent and fullfilling life. You can still be Jew without getting a Bat Mitzvah.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics