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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Only an orthodox shul would need proof. He could join a reform or even most conservative synagogues just by saying he's interested. [/quote] 
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-1. We recently joined a Conservative shul and we were asked to state if each partner was born Jewish, converted, had any special lineage like Cohen or Levi, etc. They didn't ask for proof but perhaps if we'd been converts or not Jewish at all they would have.

OP, are you Jewish? It sounds like maybe?

If your DH feels Jewish but didn't grow up with any Jewish customs or instruction then in the end it doesn't really matter what his genetics say. He should take the classes -- he doesn't have to take them all at once -- to learn what he needs to learn, either as a path to conversion, or just to knowledge. If he doesn't convert, then as someone with no identifiable Jewish ancestry, I'm not sure what that would mean for him. It's best for him to go through the conversion process if he wants to feel fully part of the community and if it will bring him peace. There is no prize for doing it as fast as possible. It can take time. And if he's working with a rabbi I'm sure he could participate in the synagogue community in some form. Certainly he could attend services -- there is definitely no name-checking at the door for those. If you show up and participate, that's enough, except that it would not be right for him to recite a blessing over the Torah or participate in other activities on the bimah as these honors are reserved for Jewish adults (not even kids).[/quote]

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