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[quote=Anonymous]We have a family friend in home hospice. This isn’t the same situation that you you have, emotionally, but I did need to prepare dd9 before visiting. I talked a bit about some things to avoid bringing up, unless our friend did first. “I hope you get better” seems like a natural thing to say for a kid, but might hit some dying people the wrong way. With our friend, I knew that she was very happy to be at home, with her beloved cat; she had been in the hospital for a long time. So in our case, these were good go-to subjects- we’re so glad you’re home, Fluffy is clearly happy to have you here, and then on to cat topics. Thinking of some “safe” kid friendly subjects to discuss ahead of time was helpful.

Two other approaches that proved to be good ones in our case- 1. dd drew a picture for our friend, so that gave her something to talk about briefly rather than just standing there quietly, and 2. when I take dd to visit our friend we only stay for maybe 10 minutes. This cuts down on awkwardness all around, and prevents visit fatigue. I save longer visits for when I go alone.[/quote]

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