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[quote=Anonymous]Our DD may be on her last days of youth soccer.

While a part of me is saying "oh thank god" I no longer have to deal with the soccer parent driving, etc, a part of me is also a bit worried.

DD had a horrible season last year. A coach that she found unimpressive, teammates that were basically toxic and unfriendly, and an injury that really put a damper on her season. She went from being "as good as anyone on the DA" according to the coach to being moved down a team that was significantly (and depressingly) weaker to "rest and recover" from an injury. She took a very negative view of soccer practices and her teammates and the whole situation was quite a mess. What was once the highlight of their week became yet another drudgery and for the first time they broached the idea of "giving it all up".  Mentally, she has kind of given up on the game she loved for many years.

Now if she was leaving on a positive note: she truly was "done" with soccer and ready for something else, we'd be fine with it and help her find a new passion. But leaving in her current state kind of has the flavor of giving up when the chips are down--not pushing through to get back to where they were and just taking the easy way out. Of course, I don't want her unhappy, but by the same token, I don't want her to face adversity with an "I give up, just screw it" attitude. We broached the idea of playing some other sport but she said she was willing to give it one more year.  She decided to change clubs for the upcoming year to start fresh in the hopes new friends and a new team might be a better place for her.

FWIW Her previous coaches told us, begged us to "please keep her in the game--she's very talented with a strong future in the sport." They said in the right environment a college shot is well within her capabilities one day.  We really only joined youth soccer to help build her self-confidence, character and physical fitness.  We actually aren't that interested in whether she plays at the college level--we just want her to learn the value of giving it her best effort and performing to the top of her abilities.

Anyone else have a kid want to quit but come back to love the game again? I've seen posts that most kids quit by age 13 so I was wondering if this is just something many players go through at one time or another?

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