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[quote=Anonymous]My DSD is 19 and winding up a summer internship here in DC before she returns to college at the end of the month. She is staying with us and has the whole lower level of the house to herself. She met a guy through family friends, and they have been dating for 2.5 weeks.  He’s extremely nice, lives with his parents, and commutes to college. Because of her more private setup,  they hang out here. All the time. They went on two dates and then he came over and stayed until 1 am. Sunday evening, which is my get-ready-for-the-week downtime and de-stress day, he comes over. DH and I spoke to her about him constantly being over, but we can’t really articulate why we don’t like it, and DH kind of painted it to her that I was the one with the issue and he was fine with whatever. I tried to explain it to her- I said I know you like him but he’s a strange guy in the house at 1am, and he’s not family, and at some point our house is just for family.  I just don’t want to worry about running to get a glass of water at 2am and running into him leaving. I want to just cook and do laundry and give my 4 yo a bath and wind down on Sunday without him hanging around. It’s just..too intimate...to have him around all the time.

Anyway I told her 11pm seemed like an appropriate time for him to leave, and she gave me a lot of pushback.  Confronted with the half-assed support from DH and her pushback, I told her “look, you know how I feel and I’ll leave it at that.”  And so here we are- he’s still here and he will be here until 2am and he’ll be back again tomorrow and we have 2.5 more weeks of him always being here. If you have 18 year old kids or older staying with you, how do you deal with this? [/quote]

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