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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Unfortunately, I think this is more of a problem with girls.  I felt the same in the classroom.  Smart girls had a tougher time speaking up in class or letting people know they were smart.

I have boys and it seems no boy minds being called a show dog.  They will get angry over ballhogs, but the ballhogs don't seem to change or mind.  It is more along the lines of 'every time he gets the ball he dribbles it into the ground and never passes---even when someone is wide open'.  Luckily, their coach is on the same page and the ball hog is eventually reprimanded or taken out. We also have some parents that encourage this behavior in their kids---and these aren't young kids.  They are 13/14.

The boys are generally supportive of a teammate that is dominant though.  There is an amazing striker on my younger's son team that makes it work 99$ of the time so people don't care as much if he dribbles too much occasionally.  If the player is missing better passing opportunities and has no concept of when it is better to pass vs dribble that is a different issue.

Maybe she is more afraid of 'choking' but doesn't want to say this.  At that age, my oldest would constantly give up a shot and pass it to someone else when he should have a clear shot.  He was more afraid of making a mistake and it was not something he used to be afraid of.  I think this came up because he previously was the star of a different team and was now surrounded by many talented players---and he was also now on the end of the calendar due to birth year change.  It took a lot of building confidence and pointing out how many kids miss those shots, but when there is an opportunity you have to take the shot.  If you don't shoot, you don't score.

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Great post--I agree with all of this.  OP, I'd mention this issue to your DD's coach.  If he's aware of the team dynamics and her anxiety about disapproval from some of the others, he can more effectively work with her to stay focused on the game and tune everything else out.[/quote]

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