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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She probably knows her child has problems with aggression, but doesn't want to talk about it with you. Which means you're not real friends (which you know), which means you have no obligation to spend time with her if you find this to be a dealbreaker.  But if it's going to cause some kind of rift in your friendship circle, then probably easier to just talk it through and say that you can't let her son push your toddler or whatever.

I also see a lot of projecting in what you wrote.  Just because you didn't see her reacting the way you thought she should doesn't mean she's not aware of and addressing discipline issues with her child, and it doesn't mean she doesn't think he is "capable" of doing it. [/quote]

This is the thing. She has shared very personal traumatic things about her past and family. We are very close friends.

My friend said she has never heard of her child doing an act like this so she doesn’t believe child did it.

DH said to me that they know the child but she was probably reacted poorly in the moment. I was so fumed when we got home. I’m still upset. I obviously care about friendship or else I wouldn’t be this upset.[/quote]

I mean, if you claim she's such a close friend, then you talk it out. It's hard to tell if you're over-reacting or not to the incident.  If you need to set up ground rules about how her child interacts with your child, do that.  But it sounds like this is more about her reaction, than what actually happened to her child? When I ended a friendship over child behavior it was pretty much mutual, in that we knew the kids could not be together, and that our friendship really wasn't feasible on that basis.  It sounds like something different is going on in your case. [/quote]

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