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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a bunch of fantasies that are somewhat between tame and minor leagues and wife isn't into any of them.  We have discussed perhaps my getting them met outside the marriage.

It's hard to tell whether it's a minor fantasy you should try to indulge vs something that is a fetish too far.  More details?[/quote]

It involves other people, public places or other performative acts, like me picking up someone in a bar and taking them to a hotel room (btw, this is the one that caused the most recent fight, because I had agreed to flirting with a stranger in a bar, even though that neither turns me on nor makes me feel good about myself, so DH could watch, but that wasn’t enough). I meant what I wrote about this not being vanilla stuff.[/quote]

Yeah that’s too bad for him. If he’s going to be an ass about it, I’d suggest counseling or something. I’d have trouble being intimate with someone who couldn’t respect my boundaries, and I’m sort of in your DH’s shoes. My DH has made it explicitly clear that he’s not into anything involving multiple people in real life, but we talk about fantasies and role play because he knows I’m into it. It sucks knowing I’ll never have that fantasy fulfilled, but I’d never try to make him feel bad for having limits like that. I’m sorry he’s behaving that way. Is he selfish in all aspects of life, or just this one sexual issue? [/quote]

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