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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm the "lazy" sibling; sibling let me know she was "in charge" and that I received no input whatsoever. So I stopped. [/quote]

This is common.  Sometimes there is a sibling who wants the noteriety/control/majority/whatever, then wants to delegate who does what or who gets what.  There really is no working with someone like that.  Also, consider if the siblings have their own families or not, OP - nuclear families take a LOT of attention and time.   OP, there may be some way that the siblings can help out, if you let them.  [/quote]

OP: nobody is taking over.  We would be glad to have them step in and do something.  And we all have families to take care of.  In fact, you might argue that DH and I have the most family responsibilities since our children are young and can't be left at home alone, while they have teenagers who can.  What happens is something like elderly MIL is admitted to the hospital for something, DH and I are the only ones who visit/check on her/talk to doctors.  Maybe they know that DH will go so they don't have to, but now I rather suspect they would just leave her there alone.  And DH is not willing to test it out -- will they go if we don't?  One say it's just "emotionally overwhelming so she needs a break from it all" but takes care of her own family just fine.  The other just says she's busy, every time.  We're all busy.  [/quote]

You are not unique. Many go thru the same phases. No easy answers.[/quote]

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