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[quote=Anonymous]Hi OP.  I feel for you.  It is difficult as our parents get older keeping them engaged.  A move is a big adjustment and she may be a little depressed - it is a big adjustment  to start over even if she puts on a brave face,  and meeting friends can be difficult.    Is she religious?  The church community has been my moms saving grace - it's not my thing, but it's hers and became her life after my father passed.  She volunteered on various committees and  made many friends.    Is she helpful?  Does she like to cook?  Would she be able to help with dinner prep (and would she enjoy it?).  My mom is a Martha Stewart type and loves to help with meal prep and things around the house.  I know this is not for everybody (yes - she really liked doing things like gardening and cleaning silver and cooking - so these sorts of things kept her happy and busy and helped me out too.  Whatever her interests - identify them and try to support her and get some structure in her life.  My mom was in a knitting group and the church groups.  My friends moms have kept busy with book clubs, art/painting and bridge.  It's a very individual thing - and I sort of lucked out that homemaking was my moms thing - but be patient.  You sound like a wonderful daughter in law and I'm a believer that having projects during the day that she enjoys may be what she needs to get her feeling more comfortable and confident in her new environment.  Take care and good luck.  i also enjoy having my friends over for tea or cocktails or going to lunch and inviting my mom along.  It sometimes helps to bring others around - my mom really enjoys the interaction and has met many of my friends AND parents that are visiting or in the same situation.    If she enjoys children perhaps she could become a reader at one of the elementary schools.  There are many opportunities in this area for enrichment.    Hang in there and take one day at a time.  [/quote]

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