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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You should definitely talk to your DH about it, even if it's just to let him know how you feel and what you're thinking.  Be prepared for him to be anti-sperm donor (even if only initially) - the topic can bring out some feelings around manhood that you may not expect (and may find silly).  That's what happened to me.  Also, consider that a kid may like having a dna relationship to at least one parent, so it's a good idea to consider that (it'll be hard to tell a kid that you didn't want them to have it b/c it made you insecure).  My DH had the perspective that I got to be pregnant and have that bond (and the influence my body had on dna expression) and he wanted to have the dna bond.  After many many rounds of IVF, we did DE only.  [/quote]

You do bring up a few good points. However, and I know this sounds petty and I'm prepared to be flamed for this, he was the one who waited to get married with me repeatedly telling him that I had low ovarian reserve so I don't feel like it's fair that he still gets to have a genetic child and I don't. Just true feelings. I also feel that it will be an awkward family dynamic for us personally. I do feel my husband will be against it. [/quote]

NP and I get what you're saying, and I for one won't flame you for it. I would really encourage you, though, to consider PP's point about your child having the genetic connection to one parent, completely aside from your husband's opinion on his manhood which is not the child's problem (though unfortunately it's yours; it's annoying, I know). [/quote]

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