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[quote=Anonymous]Look, she's probably still raw, and it's going ot take some time for those feelings to subside.

We are also friends with a divorced couple.  For the betterment of their kids, they still do things together, the 4 of them.  They were just in Europe together for part of a vacation.  They went to Disney together.  And while it's hard, it's also great for the kids to not feel badly that they are doing something fun with one parent and not the other.

Could they have done either of those things the first year of their divorce?  No.  But they've worked to a better, accepting place.

I think I would write the mom.  I would tell her that you had an have no intention of taking sides - you love her, and the kids, and - as hard as this is to hear - her X.  You are on the kids' side, if you are taking a side.  And you will be fair, and honorable, and always put the kids first.  Maybe it is hard to do at first, but you hope she will see that in the long wrong, for the kids, it's the right way to be.  And that you're always there for her.

And just let that sit with her for a while.  If she's at all reasonable, she will come to see that putting her own feelings aside for the good of the kids is the best long term solution.  [/quote]

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