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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was this kid. I projected happy, positive and sunny because I was convinced that’s what people wanted, and was convinced that people would hate me if they actually knew me. I got such positive response to the happy behavior that it played into my thinking, that it was better to be fake positive than real me. The real me was probably a normal kid, but I worried so much about sticking out or being different that I couldn’t be myself. This continued as an adult, I was a people pleaser that couldn’t even tell you what I really wanted because I had shoved down the real me for so long. I’ve been in therapy now and am learning to speak up for myself and that the people I love won’t run from me if I express a not shiny happy feeling.

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Op: this is breaking my heart.

My 4yo is constantly asking us if we still love her and is preoccupied with being cute and pretty. She is also concerned we will like another child more than her. Gosh. I don’t think she’s putting on an act yet. I think she is this happy and sunny. But I can totally see this happening in the future because everyone comments on her personality and disposition all the time.

Both my older dd and I are introverted and shy but extremely level-headed and sure of ourselves.

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