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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would probably just keep it to seeing them when you vacation in a neutral location as a big family holiday and even then I would keep it every few years.  There are so many great places to visit that I wouldn't want to spend all my vacation time feeling uncomfortable.  It almost sounds like everyone feels obligated to do this rather than what they really want to do.  At least at a neutral place you can choose somewhere interesting to visit with lots of other activities to keep everyone occupied.

It doesn't sound like it was much fun.  They invited you so it's perhaps just their personalities but what's the point of doing this vacation if it's excruciating.  Holidays are suppose to be fun.
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It was not fun at all. I felt like I was walking on eggshells the entire time, like I was intruding on their lives, and that they were counting the minutes until the end of the trip. Which I was, too. It was truly awful and not at all how I want to spend my time or money. I 100% get that having guests is stressful, SIL was putting on the 1st bday party for the nephew and therefore was stressed, and that our presence created an added burden. But again, we were invited and encouraged to visit. We didn't even stay in their house, defintiely didn't come to theirs for breakfast, provided our own meals, and/or contributed to dinner costs when it was ordered out. I took the kids to the park multiple times a day or they played outside in the courtyard so as not to bother my brotehr/SIL. When baby was napping, we left the area so that we didn't bother their routine. I mean really, I tried really hard to accomodate their preferences, which is OK, but at the end of the day, it was really awful. [/quote]

Oh, man. Definitely don’t feel like you need to go again. Would you be into video chat with them? Ours does that with her cousins. [/quote]

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